Why it’s okay not to be okay and it’s not okay not to be okay.

The question sounds so tricky when you heard it at first. However, it has a lot of lessons that we can ponder into. As we turn into adulthood, and even to our younger ones, it’s just okay not to be okay. We have to embrace negativity within ourselves especially when we feel so bombarded with everything and when it is just so overwhelming on the inside. Let yourself go with the flow of your emotion. If you feel like you want to cry, you let it out. If you like to shout or scream, let yourself do it. What is not okay is not to let yourself experience it and pretend that there’s nothing wrong going on within yourself. It’s just human emotion to be not okay. Allow yourself to feel it because it will not last for long.

Not being okay will help you find yourself. It will help you identify the issues which you need to reevaluate for yourself. It’s how you can be resilient to your needs emotionally, physically, and even spiritually. The next time you feel you’re not okay, give yourself a tap because it’s going to be okay after it. Always remember that there’s a rainbow always after the rain.

When you’re not okay, it would actually attract the good in people. You can distinguish who will always be there for you no matter what happens. It’s just rare these days that you can find someone who will always be with you no matter what the situation is. You’re lucky to have found it when they help you get through it and cheer you up.

Consequently, It’s not okay not to be okay when you let yourself sink without helping yourself get up. It’s okay not to be okay but it’s not okay if you let yourself not be okay throughout the process. Don’t let yourself succumb to negativity. You also have to help yourself grow, pick up the pieces and stand up on your own. Always remember that whatever we decide now would reflect the outcome of the future.

LIFE’S REASON

It’s been like more than a year since I had visited this blog. Thus, it had made me think if I could still access it but ‘Olah!’. There’s always a reason for everything. It could be a sign that I should focus on this. I have been in a crisis of this age like everyone has been starting to have their own lives, and here I am, waiting for something to happen in my life. Though comparing our lives to others is toxic, we really can’t avoid that feeling that the world is above us and it feels like we’re shrinking day by day.
Life is difficult. It was harder when this pandemic had started. We feel like we lost a year to have great memories to spend here on earth. I had realized though, those small things that we have taken for granted could bring an impact on our life. I must say that it’s the time with our family and even with ourselves. I guess the reason why this pandemic happened is to give us a pause. Also, we have seen that the pandemic also gave mother earth rest from the destructive ways of the humans. I hope this served as a lesson and will continue to cherish it even if the world is getting back to normal.

Passport Courtesy Lane is not so courteous at all!

This day should have been the day that i could have had processed my passport. Unfortunately, nothing happened. What happened then?

The schedule would be, after the check up of my grandma, we would go directly to sm seaside because the wheels on passport has been extended until March 2. We have all the documents needed for the renewal of my grandma’s passport, so we went there at sm seaside. Unfortunately, the guard informed us that passport on wheels won’t accept walk in application unless the person has an appointment reserved through the DFA website for the reason that they don’t accept payment for the passport. I understand, but the thing is when you say passport on wheels, my idea is we don’t need to have an appointment especially that my grandma is a senior citizen and should be on the priority list. We were told to just go to the main branch of DFA here in Cebu which is located in Pacific Mall Mandaue, 15 km away from SM seaside. We didn’t have a choice but to travel to that place because we need to have it renewed as soon as possible.

We arrived in Pacific Mall around 2 in the afternoon and witnessed the long waiting line for the passport. At first, i approached the guard and asked him about the priority lane of the senior citizen and the plus one who would accompany the person. The guard told us that the accompany person for the courtesy lane should be an immediate family of the senior citizen so that means it could be a brother or sister or his/her child as explained by the guard. I was kinda disappointed because what is stated from the website of the DFA is this; https://www.passport.gov.ph/requirements/courtesy-lane

Courtesy Lane Guidelines

The following may avail of the Courtesy Lane Facility without need of an online appointment:

Senior citizens (60 years and over) with proof of age.
Senior citizen may be allowed one (1) companion
The companion of the senior citizen must be an immediate family member, i.e. spouse, siblings, adult children, adult grandchildren, and children-in-law of the senior citizen and must show proof of relationship.
If the companion is not an immediate family member, the companion has to show proof of travel arrangements (e.g. confirmed plane or hotel booking) with the senior citizen to be able to avail of the courtesy lane facility.
People with disabilities (PWDs) with proof of disability
PWD may be allowed one (1) companion
The companion of the PWD must be an immediate family member, i.e. spouse, siblings, adult children, adult grandchildren, parents-in-law, and children-in-law of the PWD and must show proof of relationship.
If the companion is not an immediate family member, the companion has to show proof of travel arrangements (e.g. confirmed plane or hotel booking) with the PWD to be able to avail of the courtesy lane facility.
Solo parent must present valid solo parent card, and his/her minor children
Minors seven (7) years old and below and his/her parents and minor siblings
Pregnant women
If pregnancy is not visible, applicant must present medical certificate/recotds.
Overseas Filipino Workers (Land and Sea based) with valid proof of status, such as:
Valid iDOLE card
Valid Employment contract
Valid Work Visa
Seaman’s book stamped at international border less than 365 days from date of application

Senior citizens, PWDs, solo parents and their minor children, pregnant women, and OFWs have the option to choose from regular or expedited processing of their passport application.

The companions of the senior citizens and PWDs, minors seven (7) years old and below, their parents and minor siblings are to be assessed expedited processing fee because they are not entitled to use the courtesy lane; they are accommodated for their convenience.

All applications made on Saturdays — whether those entitled to use the Courtesy Lane Facility or those accommodated for their convenience – shall be assessed expedited processing fees based on the relevant provision of the Passport Act.

I told the guard about this but he just said no. So i was very disappointed and a bit aggravated by his response. Also, aside from that one, the guard told us that the line has been cut off already because the DFA could just accommodate numbers of applicants even if the person is entitled for the courtesy lane. I asked the guard how many person would they accommodate in a day and what time is the cut off. I was really exploding when he answered me that they don’t have a specific number of applicants per day and also with the time. I really thought that the processing is better now because of the new administration but sad to say, there are some agencies who have not progress in terms of getting better.

I stayed calm even if i was already exploding but it was my aunt who decided to speak to someone if she could beg them because they have traveled more than 3 hours just to get this done. They were given a chance but with those words of no assurance from their mouth because they said that it would still depend. Depend on what? So we decided to just go home and do it another day not on that place. We heard that DFA Dumaguete is way better.

So for those who’s planning to get a passport even if you are part of the courtesy lane, just make sure that you won’t be wasting your time and money travelling, better just reserved an appointment through the DFA website.

March 1, 2019

It has been awhile since i wrote an entry or update this blog. Sometimes, i wanted to create a new blog, often times i could think to delete everything here. But just recently, i have realized to continue my journey on this blog.

In our life, we really encounter a lot of challenges and pressures. These are what i have been going through lately. I started this blog when i was in college, now that i am 25, i have encountered mid life crises. I want this blog to be my witness with everything that i am going through, whether good or bad, happiness or what not. I know for sure that everything that we have been through has a lesson to learn and to reflect with. I want everyone to inspire with every lesson that i learned about life.

I know that i have done less things in my life for now, but i believe that through this blog, i can start my big thing. I know this might sounds crazy right now, but i am really crazy in chasing my dream to make a difference in this world. Spread love and God bless.

Brighter Side

Our existence has a great purpose in the world that we lived in and to each person that we meet. We might feel that we’re nothing but a commoner, but we really have a purpose that needs to be discovered as well. We can find it out in our everyday encounter of life.

We are living in a world full of challenges and pressure that we sometimes feel like a loser or our existence is just invisible to everybody. But we sometimes forget that on every small thing that we do to our life, it has a great impact for other people, without us knowing why and how did it happened. Every small thing has a reason whether it’s good or bad nor fortunate or unfortunate. We just need to figure it out at the end of the day.

Every morning is actually another day of accomplishing our purpose of existence. Don’t complain for another day that you need to get up for work or for facing another day of tribulations. Don’t focus yourself too much on the negative side, rather focus on the opportunities what you can still do for tomorrow.

Think of how lucky you are that you can still meet all the beauty of this world even our world nowadays is full of chaos and pressures. Some people wish to have an extended life to enjoy with their loved ones and enjoy the beauty of nature. Don’t end up concluding when you haven’t done anything to prove that you can do it. Believe in yourself than believing other people that you can’t do it. You are the driver of your life. It is not for other people. But if you let that idea rule your mind, you may end up living a life of unhappy and unsatisfied with each of the things that you do.

That’s why sometimes we tend to meet somebody who can be a good influence or somebody that is just a passer by in our life. Nevertheless, there is always a reason why we meet those people, it could be that we have a purpose for their life or it’s the other way that they have a rule to take part in our life. Even if it is only for a shorter time and even if it hurts sometimes. But what is important is that you were able to help that person or that person had helped you back. It might hurt you but look on the brighter side, that person made you happy even if it’s only temporary.

Sometimes, we only look in the negative side of the story and forget the good story behind it. We focus on the bad things that happened and tend to deny and appreciate the good and fortunate things that had occurred before hand. We let bad side overpower good things in life. Thus, we somehow say that life is unfair. But it’s not actually unfair. We just don’t appreciate small things that happened in our life and neglect to see the brighter side on every misfortunes of life.

Losing Friends

It’s normal to lose a friend or friends as you ages. It is actually even better to have lost someone who doesn’t deserve your time, kindness and generosity. Nowadays, it is really hard to find a real friend.

When you are at the age of 23 or 25, you can think of having a lot of friends from all different area in the society but it is actually not that way. You may be meeting a lot of people but it doesn’t mean that you can be friends with them (for real). You may have first good impressions for those people but with no assurance of until when? You may have good connections but what about the intentions?

It’s really hard to tell nowadays that it’s really hard to trust new people. I have to be specific because my old friends are still the best compared to the new ones. Well as the saying goes, it’s not about the time but on how you spend it with those people. I stand to disagree. You may have good times with them but how long will it that be? There’s really no assurance at all because it takes time as well to build the trust and confidante for that person.

Trust is the main issue for new friends because old friends already proved of how real they can be for you, through thick and thin and through happiness and sadness, stupidity and craziness. You may often see each other but still they are always there for you no matter what happens. And when you meet each other, it’s like hours are not enough for the catch up.

I can see the difference from the new ones. New friends are fun though but just so temporary. They’re fun to be with when you go out, but won’t always be there for you when you need them. Some would just take you for granted with what you have and for what you are. If you are very kind to them, they tend to abuse it.

So let’s be very careful in choosing our friends. I must say, i’d rather lose friends who are not real than to gain but won’t always be there. Those kinds of cliques are toxic and we have to release toxic people in our life for a healthier lifestyle and piece of mind.

Long Distance Relationship

Long Distance Relationship

I know most of you would say that Long Distance Relationship is really hard. It might be hard for some instance because of the distance and the communication which are really the risks of it.
But you have to extend your patience and be optimistic that everything will be worth it at the end. Thus, you have to consider these five things that will help your relationship lasts longer.

1. Communication

Nowadays, there are a lot of ways on how to communicate to each other and it is even way cheaper because of the social media and online chat applications.
Thus, make it to a point everyday that you have like an hour of talking or video calling to your partner, so that at least you share your moments everyday
and that what makes your relationship even stronger because of the bond that you shared even if you’re miles away.

2. Consistency

Someone told me before that consistency is really hard to achieve and i really do disagree. This is actually the most important ingredient for your relationship. Never forget to greet your partner the moment you wake up in the morning and also before you sleep. It’s how you let him feel that you think about her first in the morning and the last person that’s on your mind before you sleep. Start it with those simple things for the big thing to come so easy for you to do it.

3. Transparency

You don’t see each other everyday nor talk every single minute of the day. Thus, being in a long distance relationship, you really have to be transparent with everything that you do. I’m not saying that you have to text or call him every minute. What i mean is that you have to tell him every important thing, even the decision that you need to do. You let him know first than let him be the last person to know everything. You should not have secrets from each other.

4. Trust

It is the foundation of the relationship. Long distance relationship is really hard when you always have doubts and don’t have trust to each other. That’s why you need to be transparent so that you won’t lose trust for each other. Also, a great reminder for LDR’s out there, don’t hold your partner on the neck. That means, don’t prohibit her from going out with his friends. He has a life way back when he’s single and though, you mean the world for him but that doesn’t mean that you need to be his world.

5. Prayer

I have read one article that prayer is the sweetest thing that you can offer to your partner. Put God in the center of your relationship. Always ask for guidance and more blessings for your relationship. Pray to each other. Let God be with the both of you from each other’s absence so that it would be easier for you to surpass whatever test of time and distance the long distance relationship gives.

Unexpected Love in a Perfect Time

Familiarity at first sight, strangers as we greeted.

 

I’m happy to say that this NBSB girl is finally in a relationship, and cheers to that! Hahah anyways i won’t be telling stories of how we became lovers from being just in “familiar” to each other. It might be an incident or just a real perfect timing to both of us though that we meet “again”. I must really say, love really do exist when you least expect and pain does exist when you big expect it. And he was this guy whom i never thought that i well get to fall in love with. We might have standards but it’s with the soul that will overpower those standards that you set up for. Hence, standards on which it overqualifies when you see the real love from that person to you.

Loving someone is like opening your soul to that person that both of you is so comfortable to each other. You cannot think of the numbers but of the time that you have become so happy being with the person and so real as you get along with the similarities and differences that you have towards each other. It’s being so genuine that do not need a lot of efforts i must say. Efforts are nothing when you are not being who you really are and pretending to be of someone else’s mask. I always told him  that i hate efforts and all he really needs to do is just being himself. I don’t need any tangible stuff, intangibles are the most satisfying effort a real person can show his real love for the person.

 

After almost 24 years of existence, i must say my boyfriend is worth the wait and patience is really a virtue because God has really this someone to send into your life that will not just brings you happiness, yet will bring you closer to Him and be blessed with pure love and soul.

 

 

 

Her kind heart accepts all parts of you equally, the dark and muddy and the bright and shiny.

via 10 Reasons Why Dating A Girl With A Big Heart Will Mend Yours — Thought Catalog

Lass Like Me

The girl who’s always single won’t be easy to love, but she will be worth it because when she falls she falls hard and she will love you even harder.

via Loving The Perpetually Single Girl Will Always Be Worth It — Thought Catalog